When the conversation with my “non-religious” friends turns to how many children we’d like, they look at me as if I’m absolutely crazy when I say at least five would be incredible! I know the norm nowadays is two, preferably one of each, and I think even that “norm” is increasingly decreasing to one child in a family. But I’m from a family of six which I guess is relatively big in today’s world; Eoin is from a family of ten! So I think we’ve always hoped to have our own big family.
Recently I’ve been reading Kimberley Hahn’s book “Life-giving love.” It’s a good book to dive into when you have a quiet moment; a baby-napping moment! It’s refreshing to read about children in a positive light; that it’s actually exciting to find out you’re having a baby! The main point throughout the book is openness; it doesn’t matter how big or small your family is, as long as you’re open to life. The book also addresses the moral issues clouding marriage today like contraception, infertility and sterilisation, as well as talking in depth about the Church’s teaching on natural family planning.
If Eoin and I do have a big family, I know it will be challenging/chaotic/stressful/noisy etc, and my friends are probably right to think I’m crazy. But I know it will also bring about generosity/joy/laughter/fun/happiness.